A lot of times many people look for a reason to justify their actions, not justification to look blameless for the outside world; but justification for themselves in their hearts to feel comfortable with they are doing, especially when it comes to cheating on your spouse.
“I love him” One would say. Why do you love him is the next question. Then I would also ask “what is the difference between lust and love in your own situation?” Or is love enough? Or do we need lust and love in a relationship? Or is lust embedded in love? And I would say “not exactly.” But love last longer, love goes all the way. Love will always be there, always even when you are tagged the evil of all time.
So, where does lust come in?
Why do I think it is important? It is the spice that makes the woman feel like the young princess and makes the man feel like the Boss and all-powerful. And it is totally workable. It might be there once and might walk away but I think we have to be conscious of it always and bring it right to our table again in our relationships. Many people cheat not because they don’t love their partners enough, but maybe because they are having something they have never had. Or they once had, or they just want to do something crazy or a company was needed. This might not be true for every case but it is mostly true. Anybody can be the love of our lives; so let’s not start thinking that you might just have met your real love after you got engaged. It’s just a matter of who we want it to be. When a man meets the one that makes him fight and think to compete; he just wants to go for more, and when a girl meets the one that makes her feel like a queen; she just wants to go for more. Irrespective of the major role lust has to play in our relationships; love conquers it all, love stays when there is no lust but it should always make us want to build on the lust again.
We lie to ourselves that we don’t have to get all sexy for our partners because we don’t have time and we think there are more important things. When doing this, actually makes us better people in other areas of our lives. There is always something exciting to say, even throwing a glance at each other gets exciting. I think being loving is not enough, if you are lusting along with it, there will never be any need to be in the net of cheating. You get to feel younger, you have less thoughts on how to device ways in which you could visit your new partner, less stress, more communication and openness between you and your partner. It’s definitely the life we all want to live. Good friendship will spring between you and your partner. And lusting doesn't always hit sex on the head; it’s more of a romance thing because of the excited desire attached, and if it ends up in sex more often, way to go!
A woman is entitled to feel like a school girl and immensely open with her partner, and a man is entitled to feel like a man that is continually being teased with his partner; it is your right in your relationship. Even when faced with the temptation to cheat, you know there is something that gets better waiting for you and even when you are almost going that way; you see that it’s not worth the ache. Lust for him/her a little; give a little space for them in your fantasies. Nobody else is entitled to knowing how amazingly dirty we can actually get.
“I love him” One would say. Why do you love him is the next question. Then I would also ask “what is the difference between lust and love in your own situation?” Or is love enough? Or do we need lust and love in a relationship? Or is lust embedded in love? And I would say “not exactly.” But love last longer, love goes all the way. Love will always be there, always even when you are tagged the evil of all time.
So, where does lust come in?
Why do I think it is important? It is the spice that makes the woman feel like the young princess and makes the man feel like the Boss and all-powerful. And it is totally workable. It might be there once and might walk away but I think we have to be conscious of it always and bring it right to our table again in our relationships. Many people cheat not because they don’t love their partners enough, but maybe because they are having something they have never had. Or they once had, or they just want to do something crazy or a company was needed. This might not be true for every case but it is mostly true. Anybody can be the love of our lives; so let’s not start thinking that you might just have met your real love after you got engaged. It’s just a matter of who we want it to be. When a man meets the one that makes him fight and think to compete; he just wants to go for more, and when a girl meets the one that makes her feel like a queen; she just wants to go for more. Irrespective of the major role lust has to play in our relationships; love conquers it all, love stays when there is no lust but it should always make us want to build on the lust again.
We lie to ourselves that we don’t have to get all sexy for our partners because we don’t have time and we think there are more important things. When doing this, actually makes us better people in other areas of our lives. There is always something exciting to say, even throwing a glance at each other gets exciting. I think being loving is not enough, if you are lusting along with it, there will never be any need to be in the net of cheating. You get to feel younger, you have less thoughts on how to device ways in which you could visit your new partner, less stress, more communication and openness between you and your partner. It’s definitely the life we all want to live. Good friendship will spring between you and your partner. And lusting doesn't always hit sex on the head; it’s more of a romance thing because of the excited desire attached, and if it ends up in sex more often, way to go!
A woman is entitled to feel like a school girl and immensely open with her partner, and a man is entitled to feel like a man that is continually being teased with his partner; it is your right in your relationship. Even when faced with the temptation to cheat, you know there is something that gets better waiting for you and even when you are almost going that way; you see that it’s not worth the ache. Lust for him/her a little; give a little space for them in your fantasies. Nobody else is entitled to knowing how amazingly dirty we can actually get.
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